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Monday, April 25, 2011


Do you know a lot of women no longer enjoy sex? While many women are dying to have sex, there are some who do not enjoy sex at all. This may come as a surprise, but this compelling revelation is interestingly true. Studies have revealed that up to 70% of couples have a problem with sex at some time in their relationships. Most women will have sex that doesn't feel good at some point in their lives .This doesn't necessarily mean you have a sexual problem. Most women don't enjoy sex because they were sexually abused in childhood, or raped in adulthood. For others, it’s because they stick to a partner who doesn’t bother to nurture them mentally, emotionally or physically. There are those who have been mis-orientated by society that it is disgusting, dirty and immoral for a woman to have sex, and that women really are all asexual. While to others, it could also be a medical explanation. Some women suffer from what is called ‘Female Sexual Arousal Disorder’ (FSAD) which leads to Lack of Sex Drive (lack of libido). Fortunately, for many women this lack of libido is only temporary. Some will get over it by themselves, and a lot more can be helped by expert medical or psychosexual advice. In this report, BOLA AKINBOADE brings to you why some women don’t enjoy sex plus what they do to enhance their libido.

Hereditary factor is responsible for some women inability to enjoy sex. Essential hormones such as estrogen are in a short form in their body or may not be there at all. Testosterone, although supposed to be a male hormone which is responsible for several drives in a man including the sex drive is also found in women and it also controls their sexual responses. But in some women, it is practically absent. Physically, some ladies have very tiny almost non-existent clitoris. Other sex organs in the body are equally not well developed. Even where some of the above mentioned things are present the lady may suffer from a severe absence of lubrication which makes sex not only painful, uncomfortable but also unenjoyable.

Most women grew up to view sex with disdain, fear and apprehension. Their mind is therefore not conditioned to enjoy the sex. Most women have been pressured by society into believing that it is disgusting, dirty, and immoral for a woman to have sex, and that women really are all asexual. So many horrible things go through their mind believing that they are doing what is sinful. Even when they are married, they still view sex as something dirty that they cannot even talk about openly.

The biggest mistake that some women make that make them not to enjoy sex is their refusal to learn about sex. They assume that all a woman is supposed to do is to lie on their back and spread their legs while the man penetrates them and do everything. They do not know how to give pleasure to their men nor do they know what to do to give themselves pleasure. They do not read books and magazines on sex education. They do not watch sex education films. Neither do they experiment to find out things for themselves. In fact, sexual illiteracy exists and women who are sexually illiterate are quite many.

Some women don’t enjoy sex because they experience pain or discomfort during sexual intercourse or vaginal penetration which may be caused by different conditions. These conditions include: Vaginal Infection, Vaginal Irritation, Vaginal Dryness, Vaginal Tightness, Pain of the Clitoris, Pelvic Pain, Pelvic Adhesions (often the result of previous pelvic surgery or PID), Endometriosis, Ovarian Cysts, and Uterine Fibroid Tumors. These conditions leads to pain during sex or orgasm, which interferes with her desire for intercourse.

Female sexual arousal disorder (FSAD) occurs when a woman is continually unable to attain or maintain arousal and lubrication during intercourse, is unable to reach orgasm, or has no desire for sexual intercourse. Women describe it as being "unable to get turned on," or being continually disinterested in sex. It is also called "frigidity." There are numerous causes of this disorder. They include: physical problems, such as endometriosis, cystitis, or vaginitis systemic problems, such as diabetes, high blood pressure, or hypothyroidism.Even pregnancy or the postpartum period (time after delivery of a child) may affect desire. Menopause is also known to reduce sexual desire.
Medications including oral contraceptives, antidepressants, antihypertensive, and tranquilizers surgery, such as mastectomy or hysterectomy which may affect how a woman feels about her sexual self. The symptom includes; a woman may have no desire for sex, or may not be able to maintain arousal, or may be unable to reach orgasm. She may also have pain during sex or orgasm, which interferes with her desire for intercourse.

Stress is another that affects women sex drive. The desire for sex changes over time and can be reduced by situations ranging from medical issues to tiredness and emotional distress. Stress also can directly affect a woman's libido. According to medical experts, while men often use sex to relieve stress, women are more likely to experience negative stress effects on their libidos/sex drive. The brain is the most important aspect of a libido and when other thoughts are filling a woman's head, stress from the unresolved thoughts interferes with sexual drive. Unresolved issues surrounding money or work will interfere with a woman's libido when she can't stop thinking about them. Thoughts and worries about sick family members, her own health or her partner's well-being can cause stress that interrupts any sexual desire. The physical effects of stress show up in the form of overtaxed adrenal glands, the overburdened glands rob the body of the estrogen and especially the testosterone that is needed to maintain a strong libido. Chronic stress eventually leads to adrenal fatigue and there is little or no adrenalin left to prepare women for sexual encounters.

Most women don't enjoy sex because they were sexually abused in childhood, or raped in adulthood. The effects of child sexual abuse include depression, post-traumatic stress disorder, anxiety, propensity to further victimization in adulthood, and physical injury to the child, among other problems.

Depressed people usually feel withdrawn. So many people who are depressed tend to lose interest in sex. Depression leads to an adverse effect on any activity that requires verve, spontaneity and good coordination, and that includes sex. In women, this diminished brain activity tends to be associated with lack of interest in sex and very often with difficulty in reaching orgasm.

Diabetes and high blood pressure are among the health problems that can restrict genital blood flow, which makes the woman not to enjoy sex or lack sex drive.

Most men are the cause of their woman’s inability to enjoy sex simply because they too are not creative in bed. It is a duty of every man to learn about sex. Every man must know and understand female sexuality. A man should know how to romance a woman give her a good foreplay that would naturally lubricate her vagina before proceeding to penetrate her. Sad enough some men do not know the essence of foreplay. They just pounce on a woman drag her to bed and proceed to penetrate her dry vagina. Some men do now know where the clitoris is in a woman and how to locate it and use it to give pleasure to the woman. Such men cannot make their woman enjoy sex especially where their woman is as ignorant as they are.

Taking care of daily responsibilities, managing both a career and family, sticking to a healthy diet – it is hard enough to put on a smile on your face, much less to get in the mood for sex. No wonder that so many women have problems with their libido or completely lose their interest in sex at some point of their lives.
And when it comes to getting back the lost libido, we have to admit: men have long been one step ahead. They have had access to male enhancement pills (such as ProSolution Pills) and erectile dysfunction drugs (such as Viagra, Cialis, and Levitra) for years now, whereas until recently women had no solutions to their sex life to turn to. However, nowadays men no longer have all the advantages. Drug companies and researchers have long raced to develop a libido enhancer that could be the answer to women’s sex life and there are already some pretty promising products on the market. Effective female enhancement products are no longer an illusion and now women can take advantage of these effective products and successfully enhance their libido.

There are various libido enhancers on the market, some very effective, and others rarely providing much benefit.

Banking on the success of Viagra, many drug companies focused on developing a drug that works in a similar way. Female Viagra-like drugs work by increasing blood flow to the female genitals. This results in improved vaginal lubrication and relaxed vaginal muscles. However, the loss of libido in women is not always due to vaginal dryness. In fact, Viagra-like pills can do nothing for those women who claim that they have lost their interest in sex or that sex provides no pleasure to them.

Hormones, and particularly the male sex hormone testosterone, have been often suggested as a treatment for female sexual dysfunction. For women who have undergone hysterectomy (surgical removal of the uterus) or oophorectomy (or ovariectomy – the surgical removal of an ovary or both ovaries), testosterone treatment has shown some benefits in improving women’s sexual function. However, using testosterone as a treatment for the loss of libido is controversial for a number of reasons. First, the level of testosterone is not the only factor (and not the only hormone) influencing women’s sex drive. Second, too much testosterone can cause many unwanted side effects, such as facial hair, spots, deepening of voice, male-pattern baldness, etc.

Estrogen is also a hormone that is known to maintain vaginal lubrication, increase sexual sensation, and maintain interest in sex. It also helps to maintain vaginal tissue healthy. Estrogen therapy increases blood flow to the vagina and possibly helps to improve desire. However, just like testosterone therapy, the use of estrogen for libido enhancement is controversial and rarely with much benefit.

Nowadays women can use herbal libido enhancers that are all-natural and completely safe. Quality libido enhancement pills have no side effects and can significantly improve female sex drive by taking one pill a day. The advantage of using such herbal tablets for libido enhancement is that they not only improve blood circulation to the genitals, thus enhancing body’s natural lubrication and intensifying sexual sensations, but also enhance women’s overall sexual desire.

Women who want to enhance their libido can also use topical creams that are clinically formulated for intimate application and designed to stimulate blood flow, alleviate vaginal dryness, and increase sexual response. If you decide to use such a product, choose a quality one that is pH balanced and water-based. The pH balance is needed to match normal body fluids and prevent the growth of harmful microorganisms. The use of water-based products is important since petroleum-based products can disrupt the normal vaginal environment.


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